why do children blame mothers for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mz.naei, Miz.T and the gurls at the beach!!!!!!!!!!!!
hi guyz, this is Tina or y'all can call me MIZ. T. i have a little bit of a situation here, that i think y'all can help. i have a 5year old daughter, who is very close to her father, during our divorce,it affected her tremendously. which i totally understand, what hurts me is that she feels that i took her away from her father. and that im mean. i have been nothing but a good and responsible mother to my child,Jada. how do i deal with this? what do i do? Her father sees her, when is convenance for him, like maybe once every 4months or more.. i do alot for my kids to make them happy, im always there for them and for her father to be appreciated and wanted by them even though he is not there half of the time torments my heart.. this is unfair. what do you guys think? i need your comments thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jennifer Opoku July 29 at 10:49pm Good job hun ...i just got the time to check out your blog and it was amazing and very genuine . continue to be a woman of substance it will definitely pay off in due time . About your daughter blaming you for the absence of her father ...she might be young but tell her that it is not your fault and if it was up to you she will be with her dad all the time . you should tell her to call him and pressure him to see her . it is essential that she spends time with her father most of the time since this will contribute to the wellness of her upbringing. Take care and continue with the great work !!
She's blaming you because she's young and you're there. Continue to speak positively about her father to her-any animosity that comes through will only fuel the fire. Encourage her to call him often, every few days. If he doesn't live too far away encourage him to spend more time with her (they don't all have to be overnight stays - a picnic in the park, breakfast at a special place, a trip to a flea market...) otherwise he's going to wake up one day and realize he missed her childhood and his little girl is going to be a woman looking for a man - encourage him to be a good example of how that man should treat her.
Give it time. This is hard on everyone. As she gets older ask her if she has questions about the split. My parents divorced when I was 13, I was mad at my mom for a while - I didn't know how else to feel. I felt wrong being upset with my dad when we only saw him every other weekend and a for a few months during the summer. I didn't want to waste it being mad. And I was 13 so give your young one some time.
Jennifer Opoku July 29 at 10:49pm Good job hun ...i just got the time to check out your blog and it was amazing and very genuine . continue to be a woman of substance it will definitely pay off in due time . About your daughter blaming you for the absence of her father ...she might be young but tell her that it is not your fault and if it was up to you she will be with her dad all the time . you should tell her to call him and pressure him to see her . it is essential that she spends time with her father most of the time since this will contribute to the wellness of her upbringing.
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thanks soo much i will work on that...toodles!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteShe's blaming you because she's young and you're there. Continue to speak positively about her father to her-any animosity that comes through will only fuel the fire. Encourage her to call him often, every few days. If he doesn't live too far away encourage him to spend more time with her (they don't all have to be overnight stays - a picnic in the park, breakfast at a special place, a trip to a flea market...) otherwise he's going to wake up one day and realize he missed her childhood and his little girl is going to be a woman looking for a man - encourage him to be a good example of how that man should treat her.
ReplyDeleteGive it time. This is hard on everyone. As she gets older ask her if she has questions about the split. My parents divorced when I was 13, I was mad at my mom for a while - I didn't know how else to feel. I felt wrong being upset with my dad when we only saw him every other weekend and a for a few months during the summer. I didn't want to waste it being mad. And I was 13 so give your young one some time.
thank you so much i will work on it..thaks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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